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Mantra #2: Now is Not Forever

“Now is Not Forever:” A Mantra for Life’s Ups and Downs

You and I both know how quickly life can change. One moment feels like it will last forever… until it doesn’t. That’s why this mantra means so much to me. It’s a mantra that steadies you in chaos and softens you in joy. It’s helped me savor the good times and survive the hard ones. And it’s been with me ever since a Christmas morning many years ago — a moment I want to share with you. Let me take you back to that morning.

My 4-year-old and 8-year-old daughters were on the floor that Christmas morning, completely absorbed in the magic of tearing through wrapping paper to open their presents and make a mess in our living room. Their laughter filled the room.

My husband looked over and smiled at me, and in that quiet moment — coffee in my hands, our daughters lost in joy, love settling over us like a warm blanket — I felt a wave of tenderness. You’ve had moments like that, too, the warm, fuzzy ones you wish you could freeze.

And it was in the middle of that sweetness that something shifted.

As clearly as if someone had whispered it in my ear, I heard the words: Now is not forever. I felt a sudden ache as I realized this moment was already becoming a memory. It was precious because it was temporary, and I wanted to hold it close before it passed.

If you’ve raised children, you know how quickly those moments slip through your fingers. In that moment, I knew that one day I would look back on this time and want to relive it. I thought to myself, I’m never going to forget this moment because now is not forever.

Cherish the Good Times and Survive the Bad

What I didn’t realize then was how often I would return to those words.

That moment didn’t just stay in the past. It became a mantra I leaned on again and again — especially when life became harder than I ever imagined. This mantra didn’t just help me feel joy; it helped me survive pain. You’ll be surprised how quickly this simple phrase can steady you.

I learned that most clearly during the hardest seasons of my life.

Repeating “now is not forever” carried me through serious illnesses and surgeries, with too much time spent in MRI machines and critical care units. You’ve had these moments too — when you’re scared, exhausted, or wondering how you’ll get through. Repeating this mantra will strengthen you in hard times.

But this mantra isn’t only for the big crises, parenting, or illness. It’s just as powerful during the quieter, confusing in-between times. It can be a compass to help you navigate any personal or professional transition you face.

We’ve all had good relationships that turned bad, and jobs we thought were secure until they weren’t. Loss made you believe you would never be happy or feel safe again — and then you were. Repeating “now is not forever” during lonely, insecure times gives you hope that this feeling won’t last and that you will be happy again.

Change brings a time of transition and a roller‑coaster ride of emotions. You feel the pain of loss alongside the excitement of possibilities. If you don’t have a clear vision of what’s next, you will feel lost and confused during the in‑between phase that seems to last forever.

Repeating “now is not forever” will help you get through the in-between time until you once again feel happy and as if you belong in the new world that change creates.

Because I want this mantra to support you as it has supported me, here are a few simple ways to use it when you need it.

  • Repeat this mantra at any moment you’re feeling impatient, overwhelmed, or just plain miserable. It will calm you and help you gain perspective on your life right now.
  • If you’re struggling, “Now is not forever” offers you hope during difficult times. It means better days are coming; the pain won’t last forever.
  • During times of happiness, “Now is not forever” encourages you to cherish the moment and recognize that even good times change and evolve.
  • When you’re longing to relive a happy moment, “Now is not forever” reminds you of life’s constant flow of change. Instead of longing for the past, focus on how you can experience and treasure the present.

Life keeps moving, and so do we. But the beauty is that new moments always find us.

I can’t relive that moment with my children, but I’ve been fortunate to share similar moments with my grandchildren and great-grandchildren.

Wherever you find yourself today — in joy, in uncertainty, or simply trying to stay afloat — let this mantra deepen your gratitude for the blessings you’ve received and soften the edges of the challenging moments.

Let it remind you that this moment is not forever. Everything changes. Everything passes. No season lasts forever. And as life shifts around you, this mantra will help you breathe a little easier and trust a little deeper. It will remind you that you’re going to be okay. You always have been. You always will be. You are far more resilient than you know.

The Mantra Series

Mantra #1: What’s Important Now?

A mantra is a small phrase with surprising power — one that helps you stay present and focused. It offers clarity when life feels confusing, perspective when things get stressful, and a reminder that you are more resilient than you realize. Whatever happens, you will be okay.

In a world that feels increasingly chaotic and unpredictable, these small phrases matter more than ever. They help you stay grounded in what’s real and remind you that you can choose what’s important now.

Over the next few weeks, I’ll be sharing my top ten mantras — the ones that have guided me through many seasons of life. So, let’s begin with the question that has reshaped my path more times than I can count.

Mantra #1: What’s important now?

This is a powerful question to begin the year with. Your answer becomes a compass — not just for your daily activities, but for your life and what truly matters in your current phase of living.

There are two ways to use this mantra:

1. The Practical Application

“What’s important now?” is a tool for improving productivity and staying focused on what truly deserves your attention.

When everything feels urgent, this question helps you decide what matters, what can wait, and what can be released altogether. It keeps your time aligned with your real priorities and your energy directed toward what actually moves life forward.

I often ask myself: What will happen if this thing I think is urgent doesn’t get done? Will it matter in a week, a month, or a year? Usually, the answer is no.

2. The Deeper Application

The second use of this mantra is more meaningful: it helps you clarify how you want to experience life right now.

After many years of coaching people through major transitions, I’ve noticed something consistent: the happiest people are those aligned with what’s important in the season they’re actually living. Many of us continue operating from a previous phase of life — even when it no longer fits who we are.

Life moves in seasons. As the familiar verse reminds us, “For everything there is a season. A time and place for every purpose under the sun.” Each season asks something different from us. When we’re not aligned with that season, nothing feels quite right. We feel out of place — because we are.

It’s easy to fall into the trap of believing we must have it all and do it all now. But we don’t. We can’t. And we’re not meant to. Life unfolds like a book with many chapters, and not everything belongs in chapter one.

Asking “What’s important now?” brings you back into alignment with your real priorities — the ones that match the season you’re living in, not the last one or the one you think you “should” be in.

Looking back, I can see how much better life worked when I honored the purpose of the season I was in — and how stressful it felt when I resisted it.

This question simplifies decision-making. You only need to ask whether the choice in front of you aligns with the purpose of your season. If it does, you move forward. If it doesn’t, you let it go.

We’re living longer than generations before us, which means more seasons to experience and more chapters to write. This may be your season to prioritize family, career, travel, learning, health, service, creativity, or simply savoring life and feeling grateful for all the chapters you’ve lived.

A Closing Thought

When life feels uncertain, this simple question brings you back to yourself. “What’s important now?” It doesn’t demand perfection — only presence. You don’t have to have everything figured out. You only need to know what matters right now.

Let this question steady you, simplify your choices, and bring you back into alignment with your season of life.

One question. One moment. One chapter at a time.

The Power of a Pause: How Taking a Break Can Boost Your Self-Confidence

In today’s fast-paced world, where productivity is often valued above all else, deadlines loom over us, and information bombards us from every angle, the idea of taking a pause can seem counterintuitive. Yet, the power of a pause—be it in conversation, work, or daily life—can be profoundly transformative, especially when it comes to building self-confidence.

The Science Behind the Pause

Research in psychology and neuroscience reveals that pauses are crucial for cognitive processing. When we take a moment to step back, our brains can process information more effectively, leading to a clearer perspective on challenges we face, better decision-making, increased creativity, stronger self-esteem, and deeper connections with ourselves and others. There are a dozen reasons to take a pause:

  1. Create the Opportunity for Reflection

One of the most significant benefits of pausing is creating an opportunity for reflection. In the hustle and bustle of daily life, it’s easy to lose sight of our values. When we take a moment to step back, we create space for introspection. This allows us to reevaluate our values and determine if we are living in alignment with them or if they have changed and how we might need to change to align with them.

  •  Acknowledge Achievements

Many people struggle with recognizing their accomplishments, often feeling that they must constantly achieve more. Taking a break provides the time to reflect on what you’ve accomplished so far. This acknowledgment can foster a sense of pride and reinforce a positive self-image, which is crucial for building self-confidence.

  • Gain Perspective

A pause can also help shift your perspective. When we’re caught up in the grind, it’s easy to become overwhelmed by challenges. Taking a break allows you to step back and view your situation from a broader perspective. This shift can help you realize that challenges are often temporary and that you have the skills to handle them. Recognizing your resilience strengthens your belief in your abilities.

  • Recharge Your Energy

Self-confidence is not just about mindset; it’s also about energy. Burnout and fatigue can severely undermine self-esteem. Our brains can only handle so much before fatigue sets in. Pausing allows you to recharge, both mentally and physically. Short breaks like standing up, stretching, or even a brief meditation reduce mental overload and give you the energy to confidently enter a meeting room or event.

  • Reduce Stress

Stress can create a cycle of self-doubt, where the pressure to perform leads to anxiety, which in turn diminishes confidence. Pausing breaks this loop, allowing our brains and bodies to reset. Research shows a brief interruption can disrupt repetitive negative thoughts or physical stress symptoms. Taking time to relax, engage in hobbies, or simply do nothing can significantly reduce stress levels. Lower stress leads to clearer thinking and a more positive outlook, which bolsters self-confidence.

  • Enhance Creativity

Stepping away from a problem or task can lead to breakthroughs in creativity. When you return with a refreshed mind, you may find new solutions and ideas that boost your creativity and confidence in your problem-solving abilities.

  • Build Skills Through New Experiences

A pause doesn’t have to mean complete inaction. It can also be an opportunity to explore new interests or develop new skills. Engaging in new experiences can significantly enhance your self-esteem. Learning something new can be empowering, and mastering a new skill can boost your confidence. The sense of accomplishment can translate into increased self-assurance in other areas of your life.

  • Expand Your Comfort Zone

Trying new activities often involves stepping out of your comfort zone, which can be daunting but rewarding. Each time you successfully navigate a new experience, you reinforce your belief in your ability to handle challenges. This process gradually expands your comfort zone and builds lasting self-confidence.

  • Foster Mindfulness and Presence

Pausing can facilitate mindfulness, which is essential for self-confidence. Mindfulness encourages you to be present and aware of your thoughts and feelings without judgment. It helps cultivate self-compassion, allowing you to treat yourself with kindness and understanding and making you less likely to engage in negative self-talk, which can erode confidence. Instead, you learn to support yourself through challenges, creating a healthier self-image. 

Practicing mindfulness through intentional pauses can reduce stress and anxiety, leading to a greater sense of peace. Whether through meditation, deep breathing, or simply stepping away from a hectic environment, these moments of stillness can rejuvenate our spirits and enhance our overall well-being.

  1.  Increase Self-Awareness

A mindful pause enhances self-awareness, helping you understand your strengths and weaknesses. This understanding allows you to set realistic goals and recognize that growth is a journey. The more self-aware you are, the more confident you become in your decisions and capabilities.

  1. Cultivate Gratitude

Pausing can also open the door to gratitude. When we take a moment to reflect on our lives—what we have, who we love, and what we’ve achieved—we cultivate a sense of appreciation. This practice can shift our mindset from scarcity to abundance, promoting happiness and contentment.

  1. Enhance Communication

Pauses play a vital role in conversations and group presentations. Pausing in conversations creates a space for reflection, allowing both parties to think before responding. This not only deepens understanding but also encourages active listening. By giving ourselves and others the time to reflect, we foster an environment of respect and thoughtful engagement.

In presentations to large groups, a well-timed pause can enhance the impact of what’s being said, signaling that a statement is important or requires consideration. Professional speakers effectively use this technique, even though pausing makes you feel uncomfortable and afraid of looking like you have forgotten what you were going to say.

Silence can be uncomfortable, but it can also be a powerful tool for communication. Embracing silence creates a moment where thoughts and emotions can settle. Silence can lead to breakthroughs in high-stakes conversations, such as negotiations or personal discussions, as it encourages introspection and reduces impulsivity.

The Challenges of Pausing

Despite its benefits, pausing is often easier said than done. The pressure to be constantly productive and connected can make it feel uncomfortable or even unnecessary. Overcoming this feeling requires intentional effort. It may involve setting aside specific times for reflection or learning to embrace silence in conversations instead of rushing to fill every gap with words.

Here are Practical Tips for Incorporating Pauses into Your Life

  1. Schedule Breaks: Set specific times during your day for short breaks. Use this time to stretch, breathe, or simply sit in silence.
  2. Mindful Breathing: Practice taking deep breaths before responding to conversations, making decisions, or entering a room you might feel nervous about. This can help center your thoughts and emotions and appear more confident than you may be feeling.
  3. Silent Moments: Incorporate silence into your daily routine—whether through meditation, walking in nature, or simply sitting quietly for a few minutes.
  4. Reflective Journaling: Write down your thoughts and feelings each day. This can create space for reflection and gratitude.
  5. Embrace Discomfort: Acknowledge that pauses can feel awkward at first. With practice, they can become a source of strength rather than discomfort.

Conclusion

Pauses are powerful. In a world that often glorifies busyness, it’s crucial to recognize the value of pausing. Embracing stillness allows for reflection, rejuvenation, growth, and self-discovery. It can lead to deeper insights, improved communication, increased self-confidence and well-being, empowering you to face challenges with resilience and assurance. These moments of intentional rest remind us that relaxation doesn’t always require lengthy breaks or vacations. Often, it’s the few seconds we take to pause, breathe, and reconnect to who we are.

So, the next time you feel overwhelmed, remember the power of a pause. It might be just what you need.  By allowing yourself the grace of a pause, you open the door to a more thoughtful, connected, and fulfilled life. Ultimately, it’s not just about the moments we fill with action but also about the moments we choose to reflect, breathe, and simply be.